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The Importance of Plan B (and C, D, E, F.....)

When young people commit suicide, many people wonder why, what drove them to it.  No one has all the answers.  But one common denominator is the crushing hopelessness, the sense that things have gone completely wrong and can't ever improve.  In the case of young college students, their Plan A...the way they thought that first or second year at college would go...has gone down in flames.   The flames may be academic, or social, or religious, or sexual...but whatever the flames are, the Plan A they've cherished as their hope for the future is now an ugly mass of twisted metal and bitter smoke.

I know, because my Plan A crashed and burned.   I had, against the odds, gotten into an excellent university, heading for a science major--something girls hardly ever tried, in those days.   I had fought off years of disapproval by those who thought a child of divorce--especially a girl child of divorce--should be submissive and humble and agree to be a meek little marginal character, doomed to fail at everything.   I got away, I thought.  And then...I failed.  Spectacularly, in more than one area.    My Plan A was gone, and I had no Plan B...I had not thought of failure, only of what lay beyond that first success, that first degree.
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