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Frustrations, Medical [Nov. 22nd, 2014|01:42 pm]
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So...husband's annual post-cancer-surgery checkup includes CT scan and endoscopy.  Last year all was negative.  Year before, all was negative.  This year...a new tumor.  The endoscopy was supposed to give a sample for pathology.  Last time--when the first tumor was found in his stomach, the first endoscopy produced only gastric mucosa...not a piece of tumor--and had to be redone.  This year...same thing.  Instead of finding out this week what the pathologist said about the tumor, he's going to have to have another endoscopy, another wait for the pathology report, before he can see the surgeon who'll do the resection.

So not only does he have to go through the procedure twice (and it's not fun, even though he's medicated to the gills) but it takes up a day of my time--he needs a driver to and from, and someone to wait at the facility while they do the procedure.   Which means sitting in an uncomfortable chair in a room where I can't get away from the two TVs blaring out on a station I don't like--talking heads talking in ways that raise my blood pressure.    Then as soon as he's in recovery, I'm expected to go back and sit with him (he's not really conscious at this point; the chair in there is even more uncomfortable) for close to an hour before he's considered fit to be driven home (about a half-hour drive.)  And at home, he has to be watched for 12 hours to be sure nothing's going wrong with the recovery.

Some people may be able to write their day's wordage in that situation, but I can't.   I try to knit.  I've waited in the car in the parking lot,  or in the foyer (the chairs are not more comfortable but there's no TV...just the main door to outside whooshing open and shut and people walking by, which is not a problem.   But hospitals and clinics exude tension and worry (and those blasted news-and-talk television stations do nothing to ease it.)

Most of all I resent his having to go through this again.  A second tumor is bad enough.  A second endoscopy just to get a biopsy of the tumor is...really, really annoying.


[User Picture]From: green_knight
2014-11-22 07:52 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear this - sending best vibes for you both!
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[User Picture]From: teriegarrison
2014-11-22 08:00 pm (UTC)
If wearing headphones isn't uncomfortable for you, could you use the sound-reduction type with white noise, and then listen to suitable music or an audiobook? I do that on planes now, and it turns what used to be transatlantic abject misery into mere transatlantic mild discomfort. Maybe it would drown out enough of the TV to let you concentrate on your knitting without raising your blood pressure?

Best wishes to both you and Richard. {{{Hugs}}}
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[User Picture]From: e_moon60
2014-11-23 12:01 am (UTC)
Unfortunately, I find that voices cut through the noise-canceling headphones entirely too well for me. voices are intermittent, not the droning engine noise kind of noise, that the headphones do wonderfully with. And all the chairs are positioned so that I cannot escape the sight of the screens--the movement on them.

Last time, I had forgotten my cellphone (which they want the "driver" to have whether they're there or not) and simply said I'd drive home and get it. By the time I got back he was *just* out into recovery; they weren't worried about me and I'd had a fairly pleasant drive back and forth (and also changed into something warmer--I had miscalculated how fast the temperature was dropping.)
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[User Picture]From: lillian13
2014-11-22 08:24 pm (UTC)

Avuant, avaunt, avaunt! Cancer be banished!

Try taking a cushion for the chair, for back support if nothing else. I also second the headphones suggestion.

Hugs to you both!
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[User Picture]From: redvixen
2014-11-22 10:25 pm (UTC)
What cancer does he have? Sorry to hear he has to have an endoscopy twice. My cancer can be tracked with just the CT scan.

I third the headphones and cushion as aids. If that doesn't work is it possible to ask for the channels to be changed?
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[User Picture]From: mrs_redboots
2014-11-22 10:57 pm (UTC)
Poor both of you. Almost worse for you, I think. Prayers and good thoughts ascending.
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[User Picture]From: knittingwoman
2014-11-23 02:30 am (UTC)
I was going to suggest headphones too but not just for noise cancelling, listen to something either music or a pod cast that you can focus on and that should help block out the tv. I deal with uncomfortable chairs by standing up frequently when I am stuck in unpleasant waiting room situations.
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[User Picture]From: mevennen
2014-11-23 08:34 am (UTC)
I'm really sorry to hear this. I hope all goes as well as possible.
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[User Picture]From: gifted
2014-11-23 04:02 pm (UTC)
Prayers and well wishes for your husband. All the best to you and your family.
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[User Picture]From: thewayne
2014-11-23 05:17 pm (UTC)
I've been through a lot of that, and it's no fun. Fortunately no problems in my case. I guess all I can say is my thoughts are with you.

Two of my local doctors have TVs in the lobby. One was on Faux Newts, but for some reason that TV has not been turned on in probably two years when I go in. The other is always on Food Network, much easier to take and/or ignore. My wife will go and ask receptionists to turn off the TV or change the channel to something more neutral if it's on Faux.
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[User Picture]From: thistlethorn
2014-11-24 01:50 am (UTC)
Oh, sweetie, I totally understand and sympathize. I HATE those TVs, and I agree--most people are unable to get anything done at a doc's office or hospital. Tension and worry does permeate those places. I'm so sorry your husband has to goo through that again (and you as well). :-( I'm hoping all goes well.

I can't even read with a TV going--not like when I was younger and could read and watch TV semi-simultaneously.

Sending hopeful wishes your way.
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From: 6_penny
2014-11-26 05:26 pm (UTC)
Best wishes to you both.
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